Saturday, December 6, 2014

The "Beautiful Sex"

This link is to a Verizon Wireless commercial which points out that many times in our society women are told that the most valuable thing about them is the way they look. When girls are told over and over that looks are the only thing that make them special, they begin to put all their eggs in that basket and stop worrying about something much more important - their mind. Sadly, I've noticed this in many girls that I know in real life.

When we were reading Candide, I noted that women were referred to as "the beautiful sex", as if that was all they had to offer to the world. Going back now, I can't find it in my book, but the phrase reminded me of the above commercial.

Here are some complements that aren't about physical appearance that are applicable to any gender whatsoever:

  1. You're empowering.
  2. I like your voice.
  3. You're strong.
  4. I think your ideas/beliefs matter.
  5. I'm so happy you exist.
  6. More people should be listening to what you have to say.
  7. You're a very warm hearted person.
  8. It's nice seeing such kindness.
  9. You're very down to earth. 
  10. You have a beautiful soul.
  11. You inspire me to become a better person.
  12. Our conversations bring me a lot of joy.
  13. It's good to see someone care so much.
  14. You're so understanding.
  15. You matter a lot to me.
  16. You're important even if you don't think so.
  17. You're intelligent.
  18. Your passion is contagious.
  19. Your confidence is refreshing.
  20. You restore my faith in humanity.
  21. You're great at being creative.
  22. You're so talented at _____.
  23. I don't get tired of you.
  24. You have great taste in _____.
  25. I'm happy I've met you.
  26. I wish more people were like you.
  27. You are so good at loving people.
So in conclusion, to everyone in our class, remember that you are SO MUCH MORE than your looks. Everyone of us is special and every one of us has extraordinary talents.
  • Sri - You're such a loving person. You always put a smile on my face. You also kick butt at Just Dance.
  • Breuna - You're such a talented theatre person. I look up to your self confidence and admire how you are so outgoing.
  • Joey - You are involved in so many things and you manage to balance it all. I have no idea how you do it. You're so dedicated to so many things and have many talents. 
  • Alex - You are so intelligent and are so good at explaining things to people who don't understand them. I know I can always ask you whenever I have a question and that you'll be patient in helping me understand. You also have so many random and vastly interesting facts stored in your head that you're always ready to share. 
  • Ross - You are such a good hearted person. You always do the right thing and you always put others first.  
  • Bonnie - You are one of the funniest people I've ever met. You're also a fiercely loyal friend. You love other people endlessly and you care about them just as much.
  • Tiffany - You are one of the biggest hearted people on this earth. You give the best advice. You're also extraordinarily hardworking at everything, especially your school work.
  • Iris - You're so creative. I love watching you when you work on art pieces and getting to see the gears turn in your head. You're also really good at writing college essays. That's so random, but I always notice how creative and well thought out your responses are.
  • Ms. Quinet - You have such a huge reserve of knowledge stored in your head. I sometimes just sit in awe about how much you know. You're also an incredibly strong and passionate woman. I'm still jealous that you passed Bonnie and I up in the Race for the Cure.
  • Ms. King - You are an amazing teacher. I've been continuously amazed since the beginning of the year at how you are able to spark and contribute to class discussion. I also enjoy that we share a love of theatre.


Bonnie Cash said...

What a wonderful and kind post, Isabel! That commerical reminded me of this one, which you've also probably seen. It asks girls to define what doing something "like a girl" is. Often, girls are viewed as weak in many aspects. Usuallly, girls are phusically weaker; but, girls can still achieved as much and preform well in sports, school, etc. This commerical just reminded me of the Verizon commerical.

Breuna Westry said...

Awe Izzy I agree 100 percent. We all need to focus on the things that make us good people. Stop worrying about the flaws because the people who love us can always overlook them. I love every single one of you and are proud to call you my friends.

Tiffany Tavassoli said...

This was so sweet, Isabel! I definitely agree with you and feel that through the literature we have read, we see a lot of instances of women appearing as the "beautiful sex" and of course as weak. In Candide, we see the old woman and Cunegonde treated as objects and abused severely by men. This serves to point out the atrocities that women experience simply because of their gender and that these type of actions are simply normal and accepted in society. When Cunegonde and the old woman, list all of the hardships they have experienced, this just shows how the experiences women endure simply become a long list, and this list makes each instant that a woman experienced rape or abuse as unimportant or ignored. I think that Medea experiences a similar situation of being taken advantage of by Jason (although not by rape but by infidelity) , but she uses her intellectuality to rise above it. In a similar way, I feel that the old woman is very smart and wise, partially because of all that she has gone through.

Iris Mire said...

Awwww you're such a sweetheart! I totally agree with what you're saying. It reminds me of the Dove Real Beauty sketches (link below). Society's emphasis on beauty makes us (both male and female) unable tho see ourselves clearly. If we all stopped caring about the physical and started worrying about more important things like how we treat each other, maybe the world would be less horrible.