Psychological Effects of Being Unappreciated

If only Gregor could have read Psychology Today.

Then he would have known how important it is to pay attention to one’s feelings.  He also, perhaps, would have known to communicate with his family after becoming aware of his feelings of being neglected.  BetterHelp recommends: “Without accusing them of anything, express your emotions clearly. Talk about the times when you feel that way. Many times, the other person just doesn't realize their actions have influenced your emotions that way. If, on the other hand, the person truly doesn't appreciate you, you know where you stand and can choose better ways to get the appreciation you deserve.”  I feel that the latter options probably relates more to Gregor.

Another interesting part of what I researched recommends thinking about one’s motives.  “Instead of acting out of a need for recognition, choose your behaviors because they're what makes you happy.”  However, I don’t think Gregor works so hard for appreciation; he does it because he feels familial obligation and love. 

“When you focus on that pleasure you've received by doing it instead of the reaction the person gives, you can stop resenting them for the things you do for them.” I think this sentence really speaks to Gregor’s nature; throughout the novella, he really doesn’t seem to feel resentful toward his family.  I guess he’s just a really good person.

Another pointer: “Don’t get caught up in role identities.”  Cough, Mr. Samsa, cough.

“Work on Teamwork.”  Whoops.  That only happens after Gregor turns into a bug.

Another tidbit I thought was interesting from Forbes: “66% of employees would quit if they felt unappreciated.”  Clearly, Gregor’s boss needs to go back to school and learn about soft skills.  But I think this stat also speaks to how dedicated Gregor is to his family.

https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/stronger-the-broken-places/201409/feeling-unappreciated-taken-advantage-or-overburdened

https://www.betterhelp.com/advice/psychologists/is-there-psychological-harm-in-feeling-unappreciated/

https://www.forbes.com/sites/victorlipman/2017/04/15/66-of-employees-would-quit-if-they-feel-unappreciated/#522251b68979